It is entirely possible to change - don't let anyone tell you it's not

I spent yesterday at a workshop learning about embodiment, a technique we can use to connect with our bodies. Through the body, we can know ourselves more deeply, change our state, stop being victims and connect with others and the world. 

I’ve done similar work before and I was nervous – because ten years ago, I found it really hard. I was shut down and disconnected. Experience had taught me that was the safe way to be. I couldn’t hold eye contact – forcing it felt like torture, I couldn’t handle being seen. 

But something told me to try again, so off I went at 5:30am to drive the 100-odd miles from Brighton to Somerset to attend this workshop. And what I learnt was not what I expected! Yes, I discovered things I can do to increase my range, like connecting with my fiery side. I was recommended to try martial arts 😬!

More than that, the person I saw yesterday was not one I would have recognised ten years ago. My favourite part of the day was coming face-to-face with people I’d never met – men and women of all ages – and connecting through the eyes. It felt beautiful, calm and so natural – I loved it. If the eyes are the window to the soul, then this is a window I could stare dreamily through all day. Which isn’t very practical, but it’s a nice idea.

The contrast with ten years ago is stark. I’ve done a lot to get here and I didn’t realise how much difference it has all made until I felt it in my body yesterday. 

The reason I’m sharing it is to encourage you and tell you that you, too can overcome thing that feel hard. It is entirely possible to change your xperiance if you put your mind – and body – to it and allow it to happen when you are ready. Don’t ever let anyone tell you it’s not.